Why Your Dating Opinions Might Be Keeping You Single

Be honest—are you open to love, or are you just defending your dating opinions like your life depends on it? If you’ve ever said:

🛑 “There are no good men/women left.”

🛑 “Dating should happen naturally.”

🛑 “I don’t need a matchmaker or dating coach because I know exactly what I want and how to get it.”

…this one’s for you.

Your Beliefs Shape Your Results

If you think all the good ones are taken, you’ll prove yourself right. If you believe dating apps are the only way to meet someone, you’ll miss out on real-world magic. And if you insist you don’t need help, you might just be making this whole thing lonelier and more frustrating than it needs to be.

But let’s put some of these beliefs to the test—are they helping you, or holding you back?

“There Are No Good People Left”

1️⃣ Have you ever considered that the opposite gender might be saying the same thing about you?

2️⃣ Is it true? Or is it possible that the right people are out there, but you’re not instantly attracted to them?

3️⃣ Think about how many single people live in your area—how many do you meet in person each week or month?

Our expert insight? We meet high-quality singles every week, so we know there are great people. The real issue is that something keeps them from connecting—maybe limiting beliefs, unrealistic expectations, or simply not putting themselves in the right situations.

“Dating Should Happen Naturally”

I have just one question: Why?

Or better yet—let’s use a classic coaching tool and ask yourself “Why?” five times. Dig deep. Is it because love should be effortless? Because you don’t want to try? Because putting in effort feels desperate?

Here’s the truth: Maybe we need to rethink how we define dating. What if, instead of searching for “the one” with every interaction, we focused on making more genuine connections? What if we expanded our social circles, made friends, and let relationships evolve naturally from there—without all the pressure?

When we stop obsessing over immediate chemistry and focus on adding great people to our lives, dating does start to feel more natural.

“I Don’t Need Help”

This is a common pitfall in all areas of life, but especially in dating. We tell ourselves that love is something we should know how to navigate. But think about it—nobody ever teaches us how to date, how to recognize emotional availability, or how to build a healthy relationship.

So why do we assume we should figure it out?

We’ve worked with people who spent years struggling solo, only to see transformation once they got guidance and tools. We don’t take all the credit for their success—but we do know that having support makes all the difference.

Let’s Challenge These Dating Opinions Together

What other beliefs might be getting in the way of your next great relationship?

🔥 Is modern dating too casual, or are we overcomplicating things?

Some say dating today is a mess—ghosting, situationships, endless texting. Others argue we’re making it more painful than it needs to be. Who’s right?

🔥 Should chemistry be instant, or can attraction grow over time?

Is that lightning bolt feeling necessary, or do the best relationships start with a slow burn? (Hint: Some of the happiest couples didn’t have sparks on date one!)

🔥 Do traditional dating roles still matter, or are we rewriting the rules?

Should men always make the first move? Is chivalry outdated? Are we evolving past these expectations, or do they still hold value?

These are just a taste of similar fiery debates we’ll be having at The Date Debate & Social on March 19 at City Tap!

We’re bringing singles together to flirt, argue (playfully!), and challenge dating norms. You’ll get a chance to voice your hot takes, hear different perspectives, and—who knows?—maybe even have your mind (and heart) opened in the process.

👉 Join the debate. Mingle with high-quality singles. Change the way you see dating.

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